Saturday, March 28, 2015

Why Female Entrepreneurs Are Better Than The Men

Have you noticed a trend in the business world recently? The shift, in the male dominated world of business and marketing, is starting to happen. A shift that should be welcomed with open arms by everyone. There are more and more savvy female entrepreneurs starting businesses online, and doing it so much better than the male counterparts. Why is this?Previously, females had to compete in the male dominated world of business by adopting the same attitudes and taking on the same characteristics of their male counterparts: ballsy, uncaring, hard nosed and ruthless. Today’s business women don’t need to adopt any characteristics of the male species, they can just be themselves.To answer the question of why female entrepreneurs are better than the male counterparts we have to look at the way the world of marketing and business is changing.

Authentic marketing

Consumers can see through the bullshit marketing of old, where the only person that was a winner was the sleazy salesman who was rubbing his hands with the thought of your money.
Women are much more open and honest when it comes to their marketing, and it comes across as being much more authentic. When someone is more open and honest, a trust between the consumer and the business person begins to develop almost immediately. Danielle LaPorte is one such business woman who comes across, immediately, as being open and honest and it’s hard not to trust anything she says.
Another woman who takes authentic to the extreme is Naomi Dunford. She says it like it is and doesn’t make any apologies for doing it, it’s great to read her work. Naomi has built up a following of avid fans, and this is down to her no bullshit approach to her business.

From mass-media to micro-media

Consumers now have the choice to choose what TV they watch, the choice to stop being interrupted with the ads on TV, what brands they choose to follow, and the choice of talking about the brands they like, and connect with.It’s all so much more multi-dimensional than it has been in the past. Can you imagine someone 30 years ago giving a big company bad press without being sued for it. Nowadays it’s the consumer who is in control, the consumer who has the choice, the consumer who has the voice.
This is why the female entrepreneurs are so much better, their natural tendency is to listen first and act on the information they receive, whilst the male of the species act first and listen later. yes, that’s a bit of a stereotypical view, but one that, I believe, has merit.
Mass-media is no longer applicable in today’s world, we have become a mass of people who choose our own media niches and follow those within.

From interruption to involvement

Gone are the days when we are interrupted with marketing campaigns, we now have the choice of choosing to listen or not. Our bullshit detectors are now highly attuned and we can spot the bullshit the moment that cheesy smile appears on TV advertising the sweet smell of odour eaters or something equally as bland. I would much rather have an ad on TV saying ‘Do your feet smell as if a small furry animal has died and been left to rot in the sun for 15 days? – Then it’s time you bought odour eaters’
Marketing has changed from putting out a crap advert on TV and putting it front of millions of people, to interacting with the consumer and taking time to listen to their opinions.
Some of the more savvy companies are changing the way they market and actually involving the consumers they are advertising to. There is an ad over here in the UK which has an ad showing a telecommunications product, and invites the viewer to choose the ending of the advert by voting online, millions of people have voted. That’s a great way to get your brand known, and women are at the forefront of making this type of marketing happen.

Sex appeal

Guys just don’t do sexy well at all, it either comes across as being very camp or laughable. The adverts on TV, and online, for men’s aftershave have feminized the men so much that it’s actually quite disturbing. More and more adverts that try and make guys sexy have made the guys very effeminate, both with their look and the way they act. In fact I believe over the last 10 years men havebecome feminized to a degree and we are losing that sense of maleness. So, sexy does not work for men, but it still works for women.
I am thinking of a recent video by Marie Forleo and Laura Roder who were marketing a business class they have for women. They used their sex appeal to make fun, tongue in cheek videos, to create a fantastic online campaign that had everyone talking about them for a few weeks.

Women just get it

Women get our social world today, they know it’s about listening, really listening, starting conversations, interacting, bringing people together and collaborating with each other. Men are starting to get this and incorporating it more and more into their business strategies, but I believe it’s the women who will come out on top.

Thursday, March 26, 2015

When Did You Last Experience The Rain

We are so busy with our lives these days that we forget to actually live, instead we dance through life without taking a step back to marvel at the dance itself.
A few weeks ago whilst taking a break, I poured myself a coffee and looked out of the kitchen window.  The skies were dark grey, it was pouring with rain, and the kitchen was almost dark, yet I love it.  I love that feeling of being in the house on days like these, and like the shared experience of everyone being miserable at the same time because of the weather.  It gives us a common enemy, something we all talk about:
“Oh what a horrible day eh?”
“Yeah, definitely a day for the house!”This time though, I wanted to experience the rain.  So I put my coffee down and stepped out into the pouring rain and just experienced the beautiful feeling of rain falling down on me.  In only a t-shirt, a pair of jeans, no socks or shoes I walked on the grass of my back garden and experienced the rain for 5 minutes, it was beautiful, truly beautiful.
After drying myself off and finishing my coffee I felt exhilarated.
It’s great connecting with nature and just wondered how many of us really stop to experience life.

4 Top Tips To Change Your Money Mind-Set And Boost Your Income

It’s time to make a proposal to your potential client for your product or service. You know the time is right and you know you have something valuable to offer them. But your palms are sweating and a multitude of doubts, fears, and questions are running through your head.
What if she says no?
What if you can’t help her like you think you can?
What if she doesn’t think you’re worth the investment?
What if you’re actually not worth the investment?
What if you’re asking for too much?
And in the end those doubts and fears get the better of you: you bottle the proposal and let your potential client walk away, never to be seen again.
Congratulations. You just took one more step towards becoming one of those entrepreneurs whose businesses never make it.
Not so long ago, I was one of those entrepreneurs too. In 2013 I took my first wobbly steps into self-employment. Until then, I’d only ever been an employee and my salary was handed to me on a little slip of paper at the end each month. There was no awkwardness or discomfort involved. I did my job. I got paid. Simple.
I thought entrepreneurship would be easier than it proved to be. I thought I could just do what I loved and what I was good at and people would hand over their money. In reality, it didn’t work that way.
Whilst I knew I was supporting people create the lives they wanted for themselves through coaching, I found it excruciatingly painful to talk about money. As a result, I let potential client after potential client disappear into a puff of smoke. I was killing my own business. Heck, who was I kidding, I didn’t even have a business at that point!
But with time, experience, and the incredible support of my own coach, I learned how to become comfortable asking for money. I learned how to move from a coaching conversation into a proposal conversation without wanting to run and hide. I’ve quadrupled my fees since I began coaching, and the figures I charge now flow out of my mouth like it’s the most natural thing in the world.
And this is what I want for you, too. I want your business to thrive and succeed. I want you to be out in the world, sharing your gifts and making a difference. We need more people doing that, we really do.
And so today I’d like to share with you my top 4 tips that will help you shift your money mind-set so that you can start charging for what you do with confidence and ease.
Ready? Let’s go!
1. Learn to love NO
One of the reasons so many newbie entrepreneurs find it tough to start asking for money is because of how they think of the word ‘no.’
What does getting a ‘no’ mean to you? If it means any of the following, something needs to change:
  • “I’m not good enough.”
  • “There’s something wrong with me.”
  • “This is never going to work.”
  • “No one will ever want to hire me/buy my product or service.”
  • “I may as well give up.”
Instead, a ‘no’ should bring thoughts like this to mind:
  • “Is there anything for me to learn from this ‘no’?”
  • “Ok, this person didn’t want what I was offering, that’s totally fine. Who can I propose to next?”
  • “Oooh, well done me for making another proposal. I’m getting better at this.”
  • “Great, I’m one step closer to getting a ‘yes.’
You must learn to detach your own value as a human being on this planet from the word ‘no.’ ‘No’ is simply information and it shouldn’t have you slumped in a corner with a box of tissues wondering why nobody loves you.If you find yourself taking rejection way too personally, make it a habit to tell yourself that ‘no’ is just neutral information. Getting into this habit worked for me and it will work for you too, if you do it consistently.
2. Connect to a bigger reason for making money
Even when I was really struggling in my business and could barely pay my bills, I still lacked the motivation I needed to push me into making proposals.
It wasn’t until a friend of mine told me about his 99 year-old grandma and how she could really benefit from having a mobility scooter to give her some freedom and independence back that something changed for me.
Hearing my friend talk about his grandma really touched me (I’ve always had a soft spot for older people) and I sprung into action immediately and set up a donation page to raise money for a scooter. Within a very short time we had the money and were able to buy my friend’s grandma a modest mobility scooter.
I realised that making money for myself simply wasn’t a big enough motivation, but when I tied making money to something larger than myself, I was able to draw on a totally different energy and motivation.
This has now become a core part of my business: I’m not only earning money for myself, I’m earning money to support the people and causes I really care about and believe in.  Making more money means I can have more impact in the world
What do you care about so deeply that will have you forget about the discomfort of making proposals?
3. Give versus take
Another major problem for newbie entrepreneurs is this strange belief that by someone paying you for your product or service you’re depriving them of their money and leaving them with less than they had before.
In fact, the opposite is true. When someone pays you for your product or service they are gaining, not losing.
When you’re getting ready to make a proposal to a potential client, get clear in your mind all the ways in which they are going to benefit from your product or service. Visualise clearly the ways in which they are going to gain.
From this place, it should be much easier for you to make a confident proposal. After all, what you’re offering is going to help them, right?
4. Turn proposals into a game
I like to turn a lot of the work I do with clients into a challenge, mission, or game. Why? Because it gets my clients out of their heads (where they’re obsessing over their own self-worth) and into action. Games are also a great reminder that even if the work you’re doing is important, you don’t have to take everything so seriously.
Here’s a quick and easy game you can create for yourself around making proposals:
Open up an Excel spreadsheet and create three columns labelled name, amount proposed and yes/no (or make up headings that are relevant to you and your business.)
Now challenge yourself to make as many proposals and get as many no’s as you possibly can in a week, two weeks, or a month. Track your results and see what happens.
Over time you’ll notice three things:
1. Making proposals becomes easier and when you get a ‘no’ it’s like water off a duck’s back.
2. There’s a direct positive correlation between number of proposals and money earned. The more proposals you make, the more money you have in your bank account.
3. Asking for money starts to become…wait for it…fun!
Now get out there and start collecting your no’s. Go on, I dare you.

5 Ways to Prepare for A Better Day

Have you crawled out of bed knowing you were going to have an awful day? We can never guarantee that our day will be good, but if we start it off badly, the day will follow suit. Starting the day in a bad mood can ensure that nothing will go your way. Listed below are five easy ways to help get rid of some of that morning negativity that comes with getting out of bed.
1. Get Things Ready the Night Before
Realizing you are late, you sit up, jolted awake by the sudden realization. You spend the next stressful minutes stumbling around, trying to get together clothes. Your negativity grows as you realize you don’t know where your shoes are.
Whether you are already running late, or want some extra time for yourself in the morning, getting things together the night before can help.. Lay out clothes on a chair or in the front of your closet. This will leave them within easy reach so you don’t have to search around when you get up, giving you more time to relax, or, if you happen to be running late, get you out the door quicker. You can also get other things ready that you are going to need for the day and have them ready to go so you don’t have to stress about them.
2. Get a Good Night’s SleepNothing starts off the day quite like waking up feeling like you didn’t get any sleep. It can leave you feeling irritable and can affect your mood for the rest of the day. Making sure to get a full night’s rest is critical to a person’s mood and health. Turning off electronics an hour before bed is also recommended because it can help you fall asleep quicker.
3. Wake Yourself Up Gently
It can be hard to leave the warmth and comfort of your bed. A great way to start your day positively is to do exactly that. Set your alarm so you have a little extra time to just relax in the comfort of your bed waking yourself up gently. Spend a few minutes getting yourself mentally ready for your day. Also spend a few minutes just stretching, as it helps your mind and body wake up..
4. Establish a Morning Routine
You can gain several benefits from establishing a morning routine. If you know about how long it takes you to get prepared, you are better equipped to set your schedule accordingly and not be rushing around stressed every morning.  Exercise, eating breakfast, and rinsing your face with cold water when you get out of bed are great things to include in your routine as they will all help you wake up mentally and physically for a productive day.
5. Have Some Time to Relax
It can be easy to fall into the motions of everyday life without providing the time you need for yourself. Take some time every morning to meditate, reflect, read an inspirational quote or poem, or just to do something that you enjoy. By giving the proper time to your wellbeing, it will help you become more positive overall.

21 Ways to Live a More Conscious Life

You’re not going to give up your home and leave the country. There are no orange robes in your future, no major move to Nepal. No Boddhi trees, begging for alms or early morning monastery chanting. You don’t have to be a Himalayan monk or the Buddha to live a conscious life.

What is a conscious life?

A conscious life is a deliberate and thought-out life. It’s listening to yourself and then making choices.
It’s asking yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing: looking at the reasons behind the actions you take.
It’s not wandering adrift in the stream of life, but taking purposeful and intentional action.
Imagine going to a grocery store without knowing what you’re going to buy. Living consciously means thinking about a grocery list and knowing what you’re going to cook for dinner this week.
Living consciously is like buying a plane ticket before you get to the airport and knowing which airline you’re going to take and to what destination.
Surprisingly, most people don’t live this way. They are guided by tradition or their families, or do what society tells them to do.

What do you get out of living consciously?

When you live a conscious life, you’re more likely to live a life filled with happiness and joy.
Living a conscious life means you’re actively evaluating your activities, decisions and options. You’re making deliberate choices based on your values and your truth.
We often don’t have a chance to live consciously. From the day we are born until we die, we are told what to do.
Our parents push us to be a certain kind of person, to like certain foods, to pick certain career paths. Society tells us that success comes from living in a certain neighborhood, attaining a professional degree, buying a specific type of house or driving a particular car.
On top of family and society, the world’s corporations are after our spending dollars so they can sell us stuff and meet shareholder expectations.
When you choose to live consciously, you can question and challenge everything.
You can do what feel right to you and reject the things that don’t resonate.

What do I know about consciousness?

Well, one way to discover the light is to live in darkness.
I lived in darkness for a good portion of my life–believing that everything my family and society told me was true.
I chose a career based on what pays.
I chose a relationship based partly on culture and traditions.
I chose a job based on how prestigious it was.
I bought a house based on society telling me to do so.
Then each of these things began to crumble, and I began to question if all the things I had been told were true.
Maybe no one really knows what’s best for us?
What may have worked for one person, for one family or even a generation of people may not be what’s right for us.
Instead of doing whatever it was that society told me was right or going with the crowd, I started observing each and every part of my life.
Consciousness, for me, was making my own decisions in life, based on my experiences and my truth, listening less to the chatter and the crowds.
I’d like to share with you some ways that you too can start living a conscious life.

1. Ask yourself what you want.

How often do you NOT take a stand? NOT have a preference?
Don’t know where you want to go out to eat? Not sure what you want off the menu?
Not have an opinion? Not know which policy or politician you want representing you?
How about asking yourself what you truly want? What is your say? What are you hungry for?
It’s ok to have an opinion and a preference. You will not be judged for it.

2. Do what makes you happy.

Instead of spending much of your life doing things out of obligation and expectation, why not try doing things that make you happy?
If you hate visiting a certain group of friends, don’t.
If your monthly get-together with your workmates bores you to death, stop going.
If you hate the gym, find another way to exercise that makes you happy.
Spend more time on everyday activities that bring you happiness.

3. Live in alignment with your truth.

Often society and our families shape the way we think and how we live our lives.
What do you think? Who are you? What do you believe in?
What do you know to be true in your life based on your experiences?
Living your truth means being honest with yourself and choosing those things that resonate with you.
It’s also being honest with others – expressing yourself and being who you are. Not hiding behind masks.

4. Accept yourself for who you are.

You may have shortcomings and inadequacies. You may not believe you’re as smart or as talented or as able as your co-worker or your sister.
Most of these false beliefs have accumulated from a lifetime of being told you’re inadequate or incomplete.
You are whole. Even with your imperfections or perceived inadequacies, you are enough. No matter what anyone else has led you to believe.
You don’t have to be any thinner, taller, smarter, able to cook better or earn more.
The people around you will try to compare you to others to make you feel worse about yourself. Don’t fall for that.
You will try to feel better about yourself by judging others. Don’t condition your acceptance by having to feel superior to others.

5. Do work that’s in tune with your being.

If you are doing unfulfilling or passionless work, try to find a way out of it. You can transition out of your career. Here’s an entire post on how to do it.
If your work doesn’t reflect who you are, you are not able to make your greatest contribution to the world.
Take small steps to get out of your day job and do work that is a reflection of who you are. You have after-work hours and weekends to work on your next career or business.

6. Ignore society’s guidance and demands.

You are going to be bombarded with a lot of advice and guidance from society, which will tell you what it takes for you to be happy.
Get a job, get a house, get a husband, get a baby, etc etc. Have a retirement account, invest in property, get more education.
Society’s way is one way – not the only way. You can choose the life you want to make for yourself depending on what’s important to you.

7. Spend wisely.

Be careful how you spend your money. Don’t waste it unnecessarily on material things or spend it mindlessly.
Do you really need whatever it is you’re going to purchase?
Is it a conscious purchase that will really add value to your life, or will it be just one more piece of junk you’re collecting for a garage sale down the road?Ask yourself, “Can I live without making this purchase? Is this purchase absolutely necessary?”
Along the same lines, be mindful of how you spend something far more valuable: your time.
Ask the same questions about your time that you ask about money.
Eliminate wasting your time on mindless and unfulfilling activities.

8. Walk with courage.

While we simply cannot eliminate fear, we can learn to walk with more courage in our lives.
Acknowledge fear for what it is, and then question it.
Is the fear real? Is the worst case scenario likely? What would happen if the worst happened?
Once you acknowledge fear, you can go about your life aware of it, but keeping it on the back burner.
You can exercise courage whenever fear crops up.

9. Say “no” more.

A conscious life allows you to gravitate towards a life that you want to live and places the power of choice in your hand.
The greatest weapon you have for living a conscious life is to say “no” more. You say no more by saying more “noes” to small things. If you don’t want to eat a particular dish or attend a particular event, say no.
Continue building up your “no” muscle until you can say “no” to the things that matter.
Until you can say “no” to that boss, “no” to that relationship, “no” to that unhealthy lifestyle.

10. Be picky.

Be more careful in choosing your friends. You become more like the people you surround yourself with. Let go of the negative people in your life.
Your clothes. You make a statement when you purchase a brand. Be more aware of whom your money is going to and what interests your money supports.
Your food.  The food you buy also makes a statement. Buy food that is farmed safely and is good for your body.
Your entertainment. Know that the sights and sounds can inspire your creativity and stir your soul. Be more aware of what you’re watching and listening to.

11. Go within.

Again, the world loves to give you advice and has many paved routes for you to take your life journey.
If you chose to live consciously and create your own path, be cognizant of what people tell you to do, but ultimately go within to find the answers. Go within to listen to yourself. Trust your inner voice.

12. Let go.

Society wants you to hold on tight to whatever it is you have.
But there are a lot of things that are worth giving up. It’s worth giving up your negativity and judgment towards people and circumstances. Both don’t serve you well.
It’s also worth giving up attachment. Release the need to be attached to your desires, goals, dreams and ambitions.
Work towards what you would like to accomplish in life, but let go in the process. You don’t have to have a tight grip and tie your self-worth to your ability to achieve something.

13. Treasure the moment.

You are likely living in a moment that has passed or one that is not yet here.
Will you be here now?
As Eckhart Tolle reminds us, “Whatever the moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.”
No need to repeat your past mistakes and bad experiences and relive the pain over and over again in your mind. Nor do you need to get anxious about events that have yet to unfold.
Live in this moment. Focus on the task at hand.

14. Practice daily acts of forgiveness.

We hold onto grudges and wrongdoings, grasping tightly onto the coal of justice in our palms.
When we hold onto resentment that tightly and refuse to let go of trespasses against us, the hot coal burns our own hands.
Forgive daily and pardon people for all the small trespasses against you.

15. Focus on what you have.  

Wouldn’t it be more fun if we thought about the achievements and experiences we had in life as opposed to the ones we were seeking and searching for?
The more we focus on what we have and show appreciation for it, the less we will be operating from a place of lack or want.
Focusing on what we have leads to contentment.

16. Give freely.

The one place where you can afford to share selflessly is when giving. If you want to serve, do it.
No need to think much about helping others who are in need.
You almost can’t go wrong when helping someone else. Look for more opportunities to help someone daily.

17. Practice compassion.

Practice compassion on yourself and others. Let go of your perfectionist tendencies and don’t hold yourself to such a high standard. Vibrate love from within and be willing to release any negativity.
Extend that same compassion to others. Instead of scorn and judgment, feel empathy and seek to understand the plights of others.

18. Capture the silence.  

The world is noisy like a bazaar. So is your mind.
The way to slow down your mind and your life is to slow down your thoughts.
Seek and practice silence so you can be more mindful of your thoughts. Being more mindful allows you to live more purposefully.
Awareness leads to clarity and intentional action.
Be ok when the television is off and you don’t hear any music blaring.

19. Be observant of the ego.

Our egos like to sit in the driver’s seat and rule our lives unless and until you call them out for what they are.
You stop the ego from taking over by recognizing it.
Your ego wants to dominate a room, dominate a conversation, feel superior and own your identity.
Know that acts of superiority, judgment and resentment stem from the ego.
Watch for hints of the ego throughout your day so you can try to infuse the crafty creature with love.

20. Be mindful of your words.

Be sparse and intentional with your words.
Know that words can hurt. If there’s an alternative way to say it that will be softer on someone’s eyes and heart, say it in a nicer way.
If there’s a way to speak that hurts less and inspires more, do that.
If the words are not necessary for the situation, opt for silence instead.
Words have meaning and consequences. Acknowledge the words that you use.

21. Wash anger with love.

When anger erupts like a volcano, be willing to see it. Watch it erupt repeatedly to catch the pattern that leads to your anger.
Have a plan for simmering your anger so you can learn to soothe it.
Anger flows when you don’t get your way. Or when someone doesn’t live up to your expectations or disappoints you.
Come to realize that no one can trigger your anger. Only you can recognize the triggers that make you angry.
Do you think that you have to become an enlightened spiritual being to live a conscious life? No.
You can strive each and every day to work on living a more conscious life. Living consciously starts with a simple intention to live more deliberately.
To choose to live more consciously is to gift yourself more joy and happiness in your life.

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

What Triggers Jealousy and How to Put It To Good Use

Jealousy is an emotion that lives within all of us. Most of us deal with jealousy one time or another.
When it comes up, it’s never pretty.
Jealousy can create harm and destroy our relationships. We act out in ways that hurts other people and eventually ourselves.
Some people act on it by making curt comments. Some deliberately divert the attention.
Doesn’t matter how we react, it all says the same thing.
We diminish the light in others because we are afraid that it will give them more attention and the more it takes away from us or the more it highlights what we lack.
When we don’t understand what jealousy is there for, it controls us and hurts everyone and destroys relationships.
Most of us feel bad, even ashamed of being jealous. Accepting that it is a normal feeling and is there to make us see our dark side and to identify what we we lack can help us grow and better ourselves.
First, realize it’s about us, not them
When we feel jealous, there is something lacking in us that needs to be addressed. It’s not about the other person; they are just the emotional trigger.
Pay attention when we feel jealous
When we pay attention to the feelings, it reveals desires we never knew we had, or wouldn’t admit to.
Take time to understand and figure out what it is about the situation or the person that is causing you to react so violently.
Let’s understand why jealousy is triggered and how we can use it to improve our life
We have a lack mentality
Jealousy is a mindset that’s rooted in scarcity. Our core belief is that other people’s success takes away from us.
It’s that scarcity mindset that tells us we’re in competition with each other. When others gain, it takes away from us. So if someone gets that one great thing, we can’t have it. We believe there is not enough to go around and that there is only one “winner”.
Truth is, there are enough resources out there to be shared with everyone. We need to develop an abundance mentality. There are more than enough resources for everyone.
We haven’t reached our highest potential yet
When we’re jealous of a person, it reveals a part of us that actually aspires to be like them.
Are you annoyed at that loud person who can’t seem to stop sharing everything with everyone? Maybe there is a part of you that wishes you can be more expressive?
Jealousy is there to let us know that we need to grow to become the person we were meant to be.
We haven’t created the life we truly want yet
When we see others living what we think is a good life, it’s teaching us to see what is lacking in our own life. To realize what doesn’t work in our life.
It is there so we can define what we want out of life.
Only then can we begin to fill our life with what we want.
Simply by filling our life with people and activities that actually matters to us, we won’t feel the need to be jealous. We would be too busy living our full life to be looking at other people’s life, let alone be jealous.
We fear we’re not enough
Deep down, we see ourselves as not good enough and therefore not deserving.
We feel we’re not good enough to have what they have, so secretly we feel resentful or threatened.
By acknowledging our own strengths, we cultivate high self esteem. When we do this, we won’t have a reason to feel jealous.
We fear we’re not capable
When we feel we’re not capable enough to achieve what others have, we become resigned to the idea that we won’t ever have it. So we become jealous.
Think of something you’re really good at. When someone surpasses you in that area, would you feel threatened? Chances are you won’t. In fact, you know you will inspire each other to do better. You‘re not threatened and you actually see it as a good thing because you are confident in your skill. You know you’re capable.
So let go of the limiting belief and start honing your skills so you become capable enough to get you want.
We have the “Why not me?” entitlement mentality
When someone gets something we want, it’s easy to feel “Why not me?”
Just because someone else has it good, does not mean you are entitled to have it also.
Recognize the hard work that person put in for them to get to where they are and to have what they have. So learn to be happy for them. Then work hard yourself to get the things you want.
We’re not grateful enough
Sometimes it’s as simple as not noticing the blessings in our own lives. We are too busy counting other people’s blessings that we forget to be grateful for our own blessings.
We don’t put ourselves in other people’s shoes
We all know how it feels to share a happy moment and be crushed because the other person was threatened and couldn’t be happy for us. We’ve all been on the other side of the table. We know how it feels, and it doesn’t feel too good.
At the very least, don’t be the person we’ve been hurt by.
Jealousy allows us to confront our negative beliefs and challenges us to break free to create a more abundant life.
The next time we feel jealous, be reminded that we are not acknowledging our own blessings enough and it’s time to focus on building a life we want and to count our own blessings.