50 Ways to a Happy Life by Just Be

1. Let Go of Expectations
Our expectations of how others should treat us can cause us untold stress and pain. When we let expectations go, it will see us free from disappointment.

2. Learn to Accept
We cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance of self, others and life situations is essential if we want to live a happy, healthy life.

3. Release Dependency on Others
When we depend on another to make us feel happy or to give our life meaning, we miss out on our own unique journey.

4. Control your Thoughts
Most of our stress is born, not from our life situations but the way we think about them. Choose your thoughts wisely.

5. Judge Not Judging another will only serve in making you fearful of others judgments towards you; which in turn will make you afraid of doing, saying or being anything. 6. Stop Procrastinating Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Time goes by too quickly. Don’t waste life thinking about what you could be doing and just do it. 7. Be at peace with criticism Trying to go through life avoiding criticism will only stop you from doing what you are meant to do and becoming who you are meant to be.

8. Change not another nor let another change you
Allow yourself or others to be who they truly are. Trying to mold another into being the person you want them to be, or changing oneself to please another takes away life’s opportunities.

9. Don’t Take it Personally
If another judges, criticizes or treats you, it is not a reflection on you but on them. Just because another thinks you are wrong does not make them right. Allow others to have their opinion but don’t let it be the voice in your head.

10. Stay Unique
With everyone trying to fit in, originality is rare. Give yourself the gift of being a one-off original.

11. Never Give Up
Good things aren’t meant to arrive overnight and we have little appreciation of that which comes easy. If you want something and believe in it, keep striving towards it, no matter what your age.

12. Leave the Crowd Behind
We are each here to enjoy our own exclusive life experience, following the crowd stops you from having it.

13. Collect Experiences not Treasures
The only thing we get to take with us when we leave this body is our knowledge and experience. Our possessions stay behind.

14. Abandon the Fear of Failure A failure is simply a learning experience to teach us how not to do something in the future. When we learn something, through failure, it is a valuable gift that only we can give ourselves. 15. Believe in Yourself Believe in what you want to do, not what family wants of you or society expects you to do. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will. 16. Embrace Success Have confidence in the fact you are successful and you always will be! 17. Love What You Do and Do What You love When you are happy in your work, success will follow. 18. Don’t Place Your Worth on Your Appearance Youthful looks will fade in time but the beauty within continues to grow. Embrace who you are and not how you look. 19. Take Responsibility for Your ActionsLive life believing karma exists. 20. Create the Change You Want To See Don’t wait for someone else to do it first. Be the answer you’ve been waiting for. 21. Treat Everyone as an Equal No one is better than another, no matter what their wealth or status. Believing we are better or lesser than another leads to grandiosity or lack of self-worth. 22. Listen to Others Most are not listening, they are simply waiting for their chance to speak. When we allow ourselves to really hear what others are saying, we expand our own consciousness. 23. Take Not Revenge It is not up to us to punish others for what we consider bad behavior. When we treat others badly, or push them away, to teach them a lesson, it will always backfire! 24. Remember You Have Freewill It is your life, you do not have to do anything you do not want or choose. 25. Allow Yourself to Give and Receive Love Opening your heart is not a sign of weakness, it’s a show of strength. 26. Let Go of Pain We wouldn’t hold on to a burning coal, so why allow painful emotions to burn within our body. 27. Don’t Allow Rules to Stifle Creativity Rules should be seen as guidelines, be a rebel and break a few. 28. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Daily If you want to grow in life, do something each day that makes you squirm. 29. Stop Waiting For another To Complete you The only person who can make you complete is you. 30. Learn to Be on Your Own Learning to love one’s own company makes the journey of life into an extraordinary expedition. 31. Like Yourself If you don’t like yourself, you won’t respect yourself and if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will! 32. Keep Your Self-Talk Positive It is the key to a happy, productive life. 33. Eat What Nature Intended Genetically modified and chemically laden foods have no right being inside the human body. For lasting health and happiness keep your diet clean. 34. Nurture Body Mind and Spirit They are connected and only when all three are balanced can we find harmony in life. 35. Free Your Voice and Learn to Say No If others do not want to respect your right to choose, that is their problem. No matter what you do, you will never please others most of the time, so you may as well please yourself all the time. 36. Remember Your Friends One of the biggest regret of those on their deathbed is losing touch with old friends. You cannot make new ‘old friends’. You will rarely make friends like the ones who have been in your life for the long hall, don’t forget them. 37. Free Yourself from Childhood Issues The child in you lived, but got through those difficult times, don’t let the adult be punished by them. 38. Let Go of Resentment Why let another’s actions blight your life? Being filled with resentment towards others makes you bitter. Let it go. 39. Control Anger Our anger only serves in punishing us, not the ones we are angry with. 40. Help others to help themselves Instead of telling others how to do it, show them by example. 41. Lose the Need to be Right Wanting to be right, just makes others wrong. Value others opinions. 42. Question Everything Don’t believe everything you read, hear or see. If it doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t. 43. Give Without Expect of Return Doing nice things for others without expecting anything back, sets the spirit soaring. 44. Stop Throwing Pity Parties Talk and think like a victim and be a victim. 45. Strive For Many Life Experiences Keep your life energized with a new experience every day. 46. Why Wait? Go and Get It If you want something, find a way to get it. Don’t leave your dreams as a thought. Step out there and create them. 47. Respect the Elderly We will all be old one day. 48. Find Your Passions How will you know what they are if you don’t seek them out? 49. Select Acquaintances Wisely You become who you spend most time around. 50. Choose Happiness We have a choice how to feel. For a joyful life make the decision to feel happy each and every day!

5 Principles of Genuine Kindness By Charles Glassman, MD, FACP

the definition of kindness is, “the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.” In a perfect world this is a quality we would wish to bestow upon ourselves and hope others also possess. But why does it seem so hard.

I know what you are probably thinking, “Speak for yourself. It’s not hard for me. I’m a kind person, it’s everyone else who isn’t kind.”

Well here in lies the greatest obstacle to creating a world where kindness is the unwritten law of the land; the habit of humanity; the definition of our existence. The obstacle to this is the fact that humankind has relinquished control to our primitive nature, controlled and orchestrated by (what I call) our automatic brain.

Let me digress, briefly, to shed light on this brain. Our automatic brain is the same brain as our cave dwelling ancestors and the major driving force in animals (including us Homo sapiens). It does not think (i.e. lacks consciousness) and only reacts. It reacts to anything it picks up as potentially dangerous, threatening, or causing us to feel vulnerable. When any of these are detected it automatically reacts causing us to fight or flee. How does it know what is dangerous? Through a lifetime of storing information. When I say this brain doesn’t think, that is different from the idea generating thoughts. It can cause us to have thoughts if those thoughts help us to fight or flee danger. For example, let’s say you grew up in a home where you were taught that rich people were evil. As

you grew and became more educated, it led you to a career where you began to enjoy financial success. All of a sudden you begin to develop negative thoughts about yourself and feel anxiety. Why? Because your automatic brain detects this success as something dangerous because of the stored data from childhood and it is doing whatever it takes, by all necessary means, to get you to fight or flee this “danger”. Such is an example of a modern day saber-toothed tiger.

So let’s get back to kindness. I have highlighted the existence of a primitive nature controlled by a very basic reactive brain, the automatic brain (AB, for short). All humans possess this equally. But there is another part of us humans—a higher mind: reflective and conscious, pure and powerful—a gateway to our Divine nature. This is from where genuine kindness arises

But our AB is quite creative in how it protects us from so-called danger. Some people over the centuries have viewed the AB as ego or even the Devil. It can use kind acts to manipulate and to gain power over another. As well, being kind toward another may trigger danger as this brain may pick up that you are placing yourself in a vulnerable position and therefore the AB will cause you to fight or flee being kind; thus, the complexity and difficulty of being kind. So how do we practice kindness with purity and from our Divine nature rather than orchestrated by our AB, and hence, our primitive nature? 1.       Give with no expectations In other words, give with no strings attached. When we give with expectations of something in return, that is a sign our AB is taking the lead. When we expect something in return, that indicates our AB is trying to use kindness to gain the upper hand, thus insulating us from the danger of others taking advantage, or manipulating, us. Giving for display purposes, i.e. for the purposes of being viewed by others as a good person, may have immediate benefits on those to whom you give, but ultimately since it comes from the AB, will not nurture the Divine and genuine. In my mind, authentic giving without expectation leads to receiving without limitation.

2.       Understand that self-sacrifice often leads to self-sabotage

Surely it’s good to give of yourself, right? However, some of the greatest givers have allowed their own lives and families to fall apart. That is a sign that poverty and lack has somehow been programmed in their memory backs as something with which they are comfortable and the opposite as something dangerous (as the example above).  In order to be connected with true Divine kindness, you must first keep your own house in order—adequate (preferably abundant) food, clothing, and shelter. When you sacrifice yourself at the expense of others, you will block the access to true kindness, likely leading to resentment, inner anger, and even jealousy. Another way to look at this is a drowning person cannot help someone else who is drowning.

3.       Practice the Golden Rule

The most familiar version of the Golden Rule says, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Certainly, we would want others to be friendly, genuine, and considerate toward us, so it would make sense to do the same to others. Naturally, our AB will warn us that such action can make us more vulnerable. Such warnings are typical characteristics of the AB, which is forever scouring the landscape 24/7 for evidence of things that can hurt us. Don’t trust those warnings and practice this rule and realize we are all in this earth-boat together.

4.       Radiate Kindness

Have you ever described someone as having a “kind face” or say someone has “kind eyes.” I have. When you go through your days, no matter how stressful, maintain an upright posture, a smile on your face, and widen yours eyes (not in a creepy sort of way!). You can check in occasionally by viewing yourself in the mirror of a car, for instance. When you walk down the street envision your eyes sparkling, your face aglow, and your lips smiling. This will attract kindness to you and make your practice easier—more consistent with the Divine within you.

5.       Practice Non-Discriminatory Kindness

I think we can all agree that giving a homeless person a piece of bread or place a shirt on their back is an act of kindness. But what if you saw a millionaire in need of help. Or saw anyone in need of help who you perceived to have more than you or who was more powerful than you? Could you be kind to that person? You see, our AB does have us discriminating as a protective, defensive mechanism. “Why should I help that dude? They don’t help me?” (Hey, remember the first item on this list?!). Or you may be thinking, “They don’t need me to be kind. They can pay people to be kind to them.” You will find that when you follow your Divine instinct for kindness, you will not discriminate. I suspect, also, this practice will draw more kindness in your direction in ways you cannot even imagine.   

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There is probably no greater place than the concept of kindness, which highlights the difference between our primitive and Divine natures. Approaching others using the five principles above will help you not to believe, trust, or take direction from your primitive nature and will throw open the gates to the Divine, unveiling your pure potential, life purpose, and ultimately genuine success.

6 Hopes That Are Ruining Your Life and Why Hope is Not Good For You

Written by Steven Aitchison 

We have all been brought up with the word ‘Hope’ in our vocabulary. However if you stop to think about it in your own life you’ll realise just how damaging the word is.

The dictionary definition of hope is:
“to want something to happen or be true”
Two types of hope

First person hope

First person hope is when we hope something for ourselves.

When we hope for something to happen in our own lives we are giving our power away to an unseen force and telling ourselves ‘I can’t do it, so I will just hope it happens’. We are telling ourselves that we are too weak to make something happen, so we will just hope it happens.

Third person hope

Third person hope is when we hope something happens for others

Hoping for someone else is completely different from first person hope, like ‘I hope my friend gets better soon’ or ‘I hope my team will win their match today’ or ‘I hope my son or daughter does well in their interview today’ – that is a different type of hope. You have no control over the outcome as it’s up to another person or set of events that will make something happen. So hoping for someone else is like wishing them well in whatever they are doing and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

However when we hope that something happens for ourselves we are giving our power away, and that’s when we have to replace the word hope for something else.

Here are 6 hopes we must give up in order to empower ourselves again:

I hope I get rich someday

Everything about that statements says ‘I lack money in my life, and can’t find a way to get more.” When you are hoping to become rich you are just reaffirming that you have no money in your life.

A better statement, or question to ask your mind is:

“What can I do to bring more money into my life?” As soon as you ask yourself that open, positive question, your mind will get to work on giving you answers.

I hope I do well in my exams

When you have put in the effort and the hard work in studying for exams of any kind, then there is no need for hoping. Again, you are telling yourself that the outcome of the exam you are taking is in the hands of another, when in actual fact it’s completely within your control.

A better re-affirming statement for this would be:

“I am confident in my ability to pass this exam.”

I hope I meet my perfect partner

Listen to that statement inside your head for a few seconds and you’ll realise you’re giving up on actually finding your perfect partner and handing over the controls to fate.

Now, I really do believe that if things are meant to happen they will, but you also have to work to make the chance of it happening more likely. It’s like positive thinking does not work unless you take positive action. So, you’re never going to find your perfect partner unless you make it more likely that you’ll cross their path and to do that you have to do things to make that more likely e.g. join an online dating site, take a college course, go out with your friends more often, join a local group.

A better statement to tell yourself is:

“My perfect partner will come into my life when I am ready.”

I hope I get a better job

How many times have you heard people saying this.

The only way you are going to get a better job in life is to do something that increases your chances of getting a better job. It’s all about statistics.

Think about this scenario in terms of statistics:

You work in a factory part time and you are hoping you get a job of a primary school teacher. What are the chances of you getting the job of primary school teacher – 0%

You work in a factory part time and during the day you attend college to study to get your teaching degree, which you gain after a few years – 90%

You work in a factory part time and during the day you attend college to study to get your teaching degree, and also volunteer working in the local school – 95%

Hoping that something will happen, will, statistically, not happen unless you do something to make it happen, and then it is no longer a hope it’s a working goal.

A better statement or question would be

“What can I do to increase my chances of getting a better job?”

I hope I find my perfect home

Nobody ever found their perfect home with hope. We find our perfect home when we go out and actively look for it or ask our friends to keep a lookout for our ideal home and usually give them a criteria to look out for.

Sitting down to watch a soap in the evening will never bring your perfect home to you, instead it’s time to search the net, the estate agency sites, or private listings in the local paper.

A better statement would be:

“My perfect home is out there, and I will find it the more I keep looking for it.”

I hope I become famous one day

We’re living in a world of instant fame with TV shows like The X-Factor, (Your Country)’s got Talent, The Voice etc

You’ll notice that anybody who appears on shows like this already has a talent of some kind, have usually worked years to perfect their act, and they have put themselves in a better position of being discovered by entering these talent shows.

Reality TV shows are different, where you can become famous with no talent whatsoever, and if it is your hope of getting on a reality TV show then good luck as you are competing with millions of others, so the statistics go against you again.

If your hope is to become famous then the only way that is going to happen is to develop your talent, and make something happen for you like starting a business, writing a book, recording your own songs, anything as long as you are prepared to work on your chosen talent.

As ever let me know what you think or if you can add anything to this list.

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5 Things All Men Should Know About Pregnant Women

CHHANDITA CHAKRAVARTY ON FEBRUARY 18, 2015

Men are often clueless when it comes to pregnancy. They may be meaning well, but can end up making their pregnant wife throw a fit.

If your wife is pregnant and you feel like you are walking on eggshells around her, you need to arm yourself – with knowledge!

Let us tell you exactly what your pregnant wife wants you to know:

1. She Is Hungry, Feed Her:

Yes, you know that your pregnant wife needs to eat more than usual. So be ready with snacks around the house!

2. Don’t Criticize Her Changing Appearance:

Never, ever tell her how big she is getting. She knows it. She may not tell you but is super conscious about her changing body. Don’t add to her pain. Just say ‘you look beautiful’ – that should do it!

3. Pregnancy Brain Is Not A Myth:

Okay, your wife may never tell you this but pregnancy hormones do take a toll on one’s brain. Be kind. She’ll forget where she kept her car keys – just ignore these instances. Don’t worry, things will return to normal once your baby arrives.

4. Sex Will Not Harm The Baby:

But that doesn’t mean your wife will enjoy it! So, consider your wife’s changing sexual needs. Some women get hypersexual while pregnant. Others lose interest.

5. She Needs Pillows More Than You:

Now, don’t make it personal. Of course, she loves you! But when you feel like a whale, the last thing you need is another human in the bed. So make yourself comfortable on the couch while your wife sleeps with her favorite pillow.

6. She Will Not Break:

Your wife is pregnant. She hasn’t turned into glass! Treat her well but don’t overdo it.

7. Pregnancy Is About Her:

Yes, you are excited about parenthood. But she is the one undergoing the changes during pregnancy. So allow her to be the center of attraction.

8. Don’t Ask, Just Do:

If your wife asks for an epidural, don’t ask ‘are you sure?’ Go get the doctor instead. Yes, all you need to do is follow her lead!

9. The Delivery Room:

Well, it is your wife who gets to decide who’ll be with her during childbirth. If she asks you to be around, great. If not, don’t sulk.

10. She Is Tired, Not Lazy:

Imagine your body blowing up to thrice its original size. Imagine staying awake at night as a little something rolls around in your stomach. Well, your wife is experiencing it all and much more. She is tired. Don’t mistake it for laziness.

11. Yes, She Needs Those Massages:

Pregnancy is tough. Your wife’s body is just different now. And it hurts. So, if she asks for the tenth tummy massage at night, just do it. If you feel like complaining, remember what she is going through.

12. Prenatal Visits Are Important:

Maybe for you the prenatal visits are nothing but a waste of time. Don’t tell her that. Just hang around with her as she rejoices and sheds a few tears while watching the little one inside her tummy during a scan.

13. She Is Hormonal, Don’t Mention It:

If you see her bawling her eyes out after watching a silly movie, don’t mention hormones. She knows it, you know it – just don’t make it a subject of discussion.

14. She Is Right:

Well, accept that she is right. If you want peace at home!

15. She Is Scared:

Pregnancy might be the most normal thing in the world, but for your wife, it is scary. The changes in her body, labor, giving birth, taking care of a helpless infant – these are the things that give your wife sleepless nights. Don’t just say ‘everything is going to be okay.’ Hold her hand and team with her.

Most importantly, learn to laugh. Pregnancy and taking care of a baby will change you, your wife, and your marriage. It will take a toll on your otherwise perfect relationship. A good sense of humor is something you’ll need to survive.

If you are a new father, tell us how you helped your wife beat the pregnancy blues.

6 Top Ways To Check Internet Facts

February 9th, 2015 10:49:00 am

When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy.” They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. ~ Unknown

Oh my gosh! Unknown?! What are you talking about unknown?! John Lennon said that! Why don’t you give credit where credit is due?

Man, did I take it on the chin for that! But guess what? Before I post anything, I work hard to assign proper credit to the author. Unfortunately, I could not find any reference to an actual interview or written work where John Lennon (or anyone else for that matter) said or wrote this. It first began appearing on Tumblr circa 2008 and seems to be the combo of a Charlie Brown cartoon strip from 1960 and actress Goldie Hawn’s 2005 memoir.

But the power of public opinion and mass persuasion is very strong and frankly, since I started my page about three years ago, I never faced such hostility.

So what’s the deal? It’s not surprising to me that people are so easily persuaded. After all, my automatic brain theory holds true in most of my life observations. That is, our primitive nature works to protect us from danger, threat, or vulnerability and it has evolved to instinctively detect safety in numbers. (We have a divine nature too but that’s not what’s operating here).

A modern term, “viral”, fits with this. Viral may be a collective laugh by the masses or the development of a common belief. Either way, it spreads like wildfire and once it takes hold the individuals who are a part of the viral spread feel protected by the masses on their side—they feel affirmed, validated, and, hence, protected.

But we all know the dangers of mass persuasion and uncritical devotion to a particular doctrine, philosophy, belief, or authority figure. Remember a guy named Hitler? In 1963, psychologist Stanley Milgram performed the now infamous Milgram experiment at Yale University. In summary, the experiment consisted three participants: a director, a “teacher”, and a “learner”. The latter was separated from the former two by a wall. The director instructed the teacher to administer increasing electric voltage to the learner, when the learner could not answer a particular word problem. The director informed the teacher that this is how one learns and they must continue or the experiment would not work. The direction became increasing stern and forceful, as the teachers grew more uncomfortable. The teachers had no way of knowing that the shocks were not real. Under increasing pressure, 60% of them ended up administering the highest electric shock, despite noises indicating the learner was in much distress. This experiment has been duplicated elsewhere.

 So, what does this have to do with our trust in what we read, see, or hear? Well, it just means we need to be careful about following public opinion or blindly following. We also must be on guard to avoid reflex acceptance or rejection.

I certainly have done my fair share of reflexively and mindlessly commenting on an RIP post or a quotation before and have learned from my mistakes. But before you join that next revolution, I suggest taking a few steps to check it out.

1.       Google It

That simple. Really, it only takes a couple seconds. You will find out pronto whether your beloved soup opera star of the eighties is really dead. Don't stop on the first page. go a few pages in so to bypass the current trend or buzz as it may not be accurate.

2.       Wiki It

Wikipedia is an incredible encyclopedia. Granted it is not always 100% correct, but it is enough of the times that will help you separate most fact from fiction.

3.       Try Snopes.com

This is an “urban legend” site. I have found this site fairly accurate. Although, over the years, I have noticed a somewhat liberal leaning bias in some of its hashing out of politically driven rumors or "legends". 

4.       Check Out TruthOrFiction.com

Similar to Snopes, but perhaps a less partisan version of it.

5.       Search QuoteInvestigator.com

The name says it all! Before you attribute a quote to a particular person, I suggest visiting this site. Just sayin’!

6.       Visit Medscape.com

This is a decent resource to all things medical. Of course, they do have a bias toward conventional thinking, however, they do also give you an opportunity to search for any particular compound, such as vitamin or herb and give a fairly accurate description. 

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Before you believe everything you read, I suggest checking out these “fact-checking” sites. They will give you the ability to formulate an informed opinion rather than simply following the crowd. I think John Lennon knew a thing or two about following the crowd and I think if he were around today, he would hesistate before jumping on the band wagon. 

© Dr. Charles F. Glassman, CoachMD

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